Posts Tagged ‘listening’

leadership on a t shirt

Often the best leaders achieve success through just being themselves, acting authentically and intuitively. Some of them are compelling individuals, possessing that special combination of strength and warmth, bringing people with them on a journey.

Many others struggle, having been thrust into leadership roles from functional areas with few reference points or training. Many of them lurch instinctively towards authority and control behaviours, which undermine their leadership effectiveness. Coaching, mentoring and training are therefore important in enabling successful leaders, but beware…..

….there’s a leadership advisory industry out there, offering advice to anyone prepared to put their hands up for the challenge. It’s hard for aspiring leaders to sift through this jungle and know what really counts. Organisations like 20I20 exchange, where it’s more about asking the right questions than providing the right answers, stand out in the crowded ocean of leadership development.

Through the school of hard knocks, much reading and many conversations on leadership over forty years, I have formed a view that there are six big enablers to effective leadership. They are to:

  • LISTEN and UNDERSTAND
  • INCLUDE and EMPOWER
  • Be COURAGEOUS and DISRUPTIVE
  • Foster VISION and POSSIBILITY
  • Be INDEPENDENT and FOCUSED
  • Act with INTEGRITY and lead with WISDOM

One of the authors and experts on leadership who I enjoy reading is Dan Rockwell, also known as “The Leadership Freak”. Dan runs a blog and tweets @leadershipfreak. His twitter sphere content is prolific and incisive, so I’ve gathered 25 of his best one-liners (leadership on a t shirt) in support of my six themes. They all add colour and richness to otherwise dry headings. Thanks Dan.

1. LISTEN and UNDERSTAND

 “Your worst problem is believing you know the problem when you don’t”

“No one listens until they feel as though you’ve listened to them”

“Moving people begins when you understand them not when they understand you”

“Understand others before challenging them”

2. INCLUDE and EMPOWER

 “Everyone who’s making a big difference in the world is doing it with others”

 “Reach higher by helping others reach higher”

“If leadership is about people, why are you focused on projects?”

 “The more responsibility you expect, the more freedom you should give”

 “Those who cling to authority lose it, those who give authority gain it”

3. FIND COURAGE and DISRUPT

“Leaders who are afraid to rock the boat, eventually sink the boat”

“If you’re satisfied with the world you aren’t a leader”

“Delay makes confrontation more difficult”

 “Meaningful leadership means identifying tough problems and solving them”

4. FOSTER POSSIBILITY and VISION

“Leaders don’t let the past control the future”

 “Great leaders fuel fires. Lousy leaders drown dreams”

“Get people talking about their dreams to inspire others”

“Those who wait for the future to change repeat the present”

5. BE INDEPENDENT and FOCUSED

“Those who are uncommitted find fault. Those who are committed find a way”

“The need to fit in motivates deception and creates mediocrity”

“Indecisive leaders who need to please everyone end up pleasing no one”

 “Weak leaders constantly point out what’s wrong with others”

6. Lead with INTEGRITY and WISDOM

“Leaders who sweep issues under the table will lead stagnant inefficient organisations”

 “The core quality of leaders with wisdom is they seek wisdom”

 “Self-protection and leadership cannot live together”

“Pretending everything is ok doesn’t instil confidence in those who know it isn’t”

What resonates with you?

cultivating an open mind

cultivating an open mind

Most of us claim to have an open mind, but we often stop walking the talk when it comes to certain beliefs and opinions, some which can be held dogmatically. Dogma can lead to intolerance (does anyone spring to mind?)  No matter how open minded we think we are, we still shut off new things or alternative perspectives, just not realising the rut we’re in.

An open mind doesn’t mean that we fail to develop convictions, rather it means being able to question things – even our central beliefs. It gives us the capacity to think on both sides of an argument, and the chance to grow, and to change. I was surprised, early in my career, to see the reluctance of people to embrace change, and so developed an appetite for helping people and organisations accept and grow with change.

There are two paradoxes associated with change. Firstly, to achieve continuity, we have to be willing to change. Change is in fact the only way to protect what exists, for without continuous readjustment the present can’t continue. A marriage, a career, a dream for the future are all destroyed if they don’t change over time. The second paradox is that the very things we wish to hold on to and keep safe from change, were originally produced by changes.

Having an open mind takes courage, because it challenges our minds. After all, we can decide whether we want to be disturbed or remain in the comfort zone, both personally and professionally.  I think that the keys to an open mind are curiosity, and affirmative listening. When we listen affirmatively we listen for the possibilities for ourselves and others, we hear more than the words, and we hear the person behind the words. 

Being open minded keeps alive the childlike appetite for what’s next, and enriches our lives. This often occurs through working together with like-minded people to express our own values, but can also occur through partnerships that are not as obvious.

There are many examples of people with different mindsets and beliefs coming together to achieve amazing things. In these cases, on open mind or a willingness to overcome barriers to partnerships that don’t come naturally, is important.

 I continue to be excited about the possibilities around partnerships across generations. Business and life experiences with my children and their mates have been inspiring. They bring fresh ideas, hunger and new skill sets to the table of experience and wisdom. There are so many opportunities for young people and older people to work effectively together. Bring it on! Combine the dreamers and the pragmatists, the wired and the wise to capture the benefits of mutual learning, and the different perspectives that resonate with different audiences….and do it with an open mind.

Can I challenge you this week to take on one thing that you’ve made your mind up about….and open it?